Resources for a Happy Marriage

 

Healthy Relationships

Unhealthy Relationships


Communication is open, honest sharing; active listening with real interest in others



Isolation: apathy and lack of interest in the others or the topics of communications


Affirmation and validation of feelings, mutual support for one another
 

Abuse: people get attacked, put down, ridiculed, criticized, even violently attacked


Respect is taught, modeled and expected (for self and others)


Disrespect: no one {and no ideal} is held in esteem or treated with worth


Trust is developed through consistent care for the needs of all concerned


Distrust: people to do not trust each other or themselves, and remain closed and guarded


Interactions are marked with lots of fun, play and a sense of humor


Fear: people are tense, scared, overly sensitive, serious and driven


Responsibility gets divided fairly and changes readily in crisis


Irresponsibility: chores are unevenly and autocratically given, but not always done


Honesty is valued; the differences between right and wrong are taught and lived out


Character: principles and values are not important, taught or shown to one another


Meaningful rituals, traditions, celebrations and beliefs are treasured and taught


Symbols: no meaningful rituals, traditions, celebrations, beliefs, symbols are wanted


People take turns
 


Power: interactions are out of balance with "might makes right" attitudes


There is a deep, shared faith
 


Faith: there is not a shared faith at the core of the relationship; maybe not tolerance


Privacy is respected
 


Privacy: people get invaded and violated in thoughts, feelings, space and body


Service to others is an important priority
 


Service: there is no reaching out to provide for others; each is self-serving


Meetings together are fostered and conversations are enjoyed


Meetings: talk at the table or councils for problem solving are not done


Leisure time is spent together as often as possible


Time: each pursues leisure and pleasure separately


When stressed, they seek help; afterward, they feel ready to solve another problem


Problems: stress cannot be admitted nor help solicited; later, they fear any more trouble


 

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