Danger Signals for Suicide

"Don't be afraid to tell someone when you're stressed out, even if you don't know why," says Dr. Ray Wm. Smith.


IMPORTANT! Don't fool around with this; if someone says they are suicidal, believe them. If someone says they are gong to kill themselves, stay with them, call 9-1-1 for help and be there until help arrives. If you think someone might be thinking of suicide, ask; it won't give them an idea they hadn't thought of. If you know someone who did commit suicide, you will need to talk with a good counselor about the loss. If you feel suicidal, you've probably bumped against something you need to talk over with a counselor you can trust.


  1. Lack of interest, hopelessness, apathy.
  2. Indecisiveness, putting things off.
  3. Insomnia or trouble sleeping too much.
  4. Change in appetite, eating too much or too little.
  5. Touchiness, extreme displeasure over the smallest disappointment, criticism or seeming neglect.
  6. Sad mood, brooding and crying.
  7. Guilt, saying, "I wish I were dead" or "You'd be better off without me."
  8. Social withdrawal.
  9. Changes in appearance, no longer caring about clothes or hair.
  10. Giving away important possessions.
  11. Use of drugs, even alcohol.
  12. History of previous suicide attempt.
  13. Sense of failure.
  14. No plans, lack of concern for the future.
  15. Preoccupation with death, morbid topics.
  16. Risky behaviors.
  17. Voices, saying hurt yourself.
  18. Suddenly better, brightening mood for a previously depressed person.
  19. Putting affairs in order, saying good-bye to important people.
  20. Actually thinking about a plan to take your own life.


There are people trained to help those considering suicide.

Ways to be Helpful

  • If someone is threatening suicide, believe them. Learn the warning signals.
  • Be aware, available and supportive.
  • Ask openly and directly if she is thinking about suicide.
  • Allow him to express feelings without judgment or criticism. Listen with love.
  • Don't dare her to do it.
  • Don't give advice ("Cheer up!") or debate decisions.
  • Don't act shocked.
  • Don't get sworn to secrecy.
  • Don't offer glib reassurances that everything will be just fine.
  • Take action. Remove the means of suicide.
  • Call 9-1-1.
  • Get help from persons and organizations trained to prevent suicide or to intervene in a crisis.
  • Be willing to listen to negative emotions, like loneliness, hopelessness and helplessness.
  • Show understand-ing and compassion for the feelings you hear.
  • Refer the suicidal person to a place for help; if she had a ruptured appendix, you would not do the surgery, so do not try to fix this big problem, either. Recruit good help from a therapist.

Most Popular

  • Video

  • Docs

  • New?

New Client Interview

ONLY required once. New Clients are encouraged to Pre-Pay for their first interview session to protect their time slot.

Download files needed Registration Packet  

Appointments scheduled for you are set aside expressly for you, therefore any not kept will be billed unless canceled 48 hours in advance.

Dr. Ray Smith


Ray Wm. Smith, Ed.D
9507 N Division Street Suite A
Spokane, WA 99218-1556

Phone: (509) 466-6632
Fax: (509) 466-0117
This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


Office Hours:
Monday - Friday, 8 a.m. - 8 p.m.
Saturday Mornings